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GET A LIFE! Para sa mga TSISMOSO at TSISMOSA

There is so much good in the worst of us and so much bad in the best of us. That it’s hardly becomes any of us, to talk about the rest of us.

If your mouth sometimes runs away with you and you hurt others (or yourself) by your gossiping, spilling the beans and divulging other people’s secrets – then ito ay para sa iyo.

OO naman! It’s only human to be curious about what’s going on with other people. We like to compare other people’s lives with our own. We wonder how successful they are and what their love life is like. We are social creatures – and gossiping is part of that.

‘Gossip’ is basically talking about someone else when they are not around. Dapat na hindi naririnig ng taong pinaguuspan na sya ay pinaguusapan. Tama naman di ba?

Kasi nga, the  test which shows whether you are gossiping or not is basically to ask yourself: ‘Would the person I am talking about be comfortable with me saying these things about them to these people if they were actually present?’

Well, gossip can seem harmless. A certain amount of sharing of information can be a way of bonding people together in groups, and talking about people who aren’t there is part of life – but can you always swear that the person you are talking about would be happy about what you are divulging?

Like, kung mahilig sya manghingi ng yosi at kendi kapag yosi break, na mahilig sya humiram ng barya kapag mas madami sya bills kesa coins at kinakalimutan na lang nya talaga, na mas okay sa kanya na karelasyon ang kapwa nya babae o kapwa nya lalake, na girlfriend sya ngayon ng officemate nyo na may asawa, na F na F sya na akala nya gusto na sya ng lalaki pero di pala “assuming as she was quoted”,  na mahilig sya sa sumama sa mga gatherings kahit di sya invited, at marami pang iba. Hehehe, these we’re the few gossips spreading around my workplace. To my colleagues, alam kung kilala nyo ang ilan sa kanila, sa floor ko narinig ang mga ito eh. Aminin!

Wala naman masama na pagusapan ang mga bagay na bagay na tulad nun. Minsan nga natatawa pa tayo pag ganito ang topic. The trouble is that gossip spreads. Sometimes faster than wildfire. And because the story doing the rounds can get distorted – Chinese whispers style – when it finally gets back to the one who was being talked about it can seem malicious. Even if the originator had no such intention, but just to make fun and entertain himself or herself.

So even so-called ‘harmless gossip’ can ruin reputations – not just the reputation of the subject of the gossip, but your reputation too, if you were the one who started the gossip, or helped to spread it.

Ilagay nyo ang sarili mo sa sitwasyon nya, ikaw ang pinaguusapan.Awwww…ano kaya nag magiging topic about you? Hindi ba parang nakakagago?..hahaha..

I know what could be the great excuse to hide the foul mouth, TOTOO NAMAN ANG SINASABI ko no? (with matching raise eyebrow and frown face).

Hmmmnn, gossip need need not to  be false to be evil – there’s a lot of truth that shouldn’t be passed around as well.

Kaya nga if you haven’t got anything nice to say about anybody, just try to take a deep breath and find something better to do.

Let me quote this statement by Johann K. Lavater:

“Never tell evil of a man, if you do not know it for certainty, and if you know it for a certainty, then ask yourself, ‘Why should I tell it?’

I hope you get it! WAKAPAKE sa buhay ng iba, don’t deal with other person’s business. You have a life of your own and  you better have enough of it.

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  1. Leo cancer na ngayon
    January 27, 2011 at 11:09

    Parte ng buhay ang chismis… Aminin mo man o hinde nakikinig ka dito. At di kayang baguhin ng kahit anong blogs ang bibig ng tao. Hehehe

    • January 28, 2011 at 11:09

      Oi Francis, I don’t mean to change you. Hahaha..joke..Of course I listen to Tsismis,without them I am not updated…PEACE! :)

  2. Cancer ngayon leo dati
    January 28, 2011 at 11:09

    Ang daya bakit nalalaman kung sino nag cocoment? Hahahaha peace! Maka kontra lang hehehe

  3. killerkamatis
    January 13, 2012 at 11:09

    Great writeup.. i stumble on ur article while looking for “handling tsismosas”
    haaay.. buhay nga naman.

    • February 28, 2012 at 11:09

      Thanks for reading! Minsan ang sarap lang din magsulat ng kung anu-ano lang. :)

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